During date I can maintain an interesting/funny conversation succesfully but It seems like i'm just a backup plan. Being a backup plan is a really terrible feeling. After dating for a while my experience has generally been the following: the girl i've been trying to date ends up making things work with the guy she liked before me and so suddenly i become irrelevant. For instance a couple of times separate girls asked me to go to their sorority formal with them, and I was pumped because I thought they liked me. Well as it turns out, both times I didn't end up going since the girls told me that the guy they were going to go with initially had a change of plans and was actually able to go. they just didn't know any other single guys and therefore they setlled on me so they wouldn't have to go alone to their formal. Another girl I was dating said she liked me but that she had a busy quarter; its funny how she ended up getting a boyfriend during that busy quarter. Being "settled" on is really shitty and has many negative connotations.
It always follows the same pattern--girl seems interested at first, then gradually loses interest or finds a guy she likes more. If I can't even get a girlfriend after this effort then how will I ever get married? =/