I have seen this girl a few times now and for some reason I just don't understand her behavior at all. Her texting habits seem a bit strange and she never answers texts right away, but her responses are usually longer and more thoughtfully written. In 'real-life' she seems really open to me and we get along really well, etc. Anyway, she just sent me a message saying that she couldn't meet this week because she has a bad cold and that she would let me know when she was better, and ended the message saying she wanted to meet again.
She has done this before and her excuse the previous time seemed legitimate and she actually did message me later giving an alternate time.
Anyway, I really like her but she's stressing me out with this aloof behavior and I don't really know how to interpret it or if I should move on. Should I make sure that she's actually interested, move on, or just go with what she says? I don't want to feel like an idiot later...
Most Helpful Girl
Um that's a hard one but some people have a fear of intimacy nothing sexual a fear of being rejected maybe even loved I'd. Give her a chance and if things are still going the same direction I'd move on. Good luck!0
Most Helpful Guy
If you've only seen her a few times you can't expect to be the most important thing in her life. It's possible there's another guy she's talking to. That doesn't make her untrustworthy or anything, it's just a reality of dating in the early stages that's hard to come to grips with but it is what it is.
But even if there isn't another player in the game, she could legitimately be busy. I had that experience a few years ago, thinking I was being consistently blown off. It took a month to see the girl again but I did see her. I also started seeing a girl who was acting aloof after our first few days right after I graduated college. We had a big blow up about it and she contacted me two months later. We were together for four years after that.
I don't see any reason why you should be stressed. I don't think she's stringing you along, you just have to be patient and understand the possibility that she's busy and it will be difficult at first to make plans with her, until she feels like she wants to get more serious with you.1