Now, I've developed feelings for someone a couple years older than me. I don't know him all that well--we've talked some times before, as we were in the same club, but mostly I don't much about him outside of observation and through other people.
I've been thinking about asking him out, but at the same time, I don't know if I'm ready to date or get in a relationship if it goes well. On one hand, my second-guessing my readiness might be a sign that I'm really not ready. On the other, it might show maturity that I'm mauling over whether or not I'm ready and not leaping in head-first assuming that I am. I can't tell if my hesitance is because I'm not ready or just me being nervous because I've never dated before, despite knowing that he hasn't either.
What should I make of my hesitance? Is asking him out a bad idea?
- The fact that you're second-guessing your readiness shows that you are not ready.
- Thinking over your own readiness before potentially starting anything shows maturity.
- Your second-guessing has no real reflection on whether or not you are ready.