I absolutely hate this girl now. We had a great first date, but subsequent dates were cut really short by her because apparently she's super tired and has been working late. Yet, she would text me if I don't text her and act all interested. Today I finally asked her what's going on. She tells me she doesn't think we're a suitable match but it takes time warming up to people... yet she knows straight away if she wants to be with someone or not.
Wtf? Why didn't she just tell me earlier if she wasn't interested?
I am soooooo p*ssed off right now. I actually declined 3 other girls because my first date with this girl went super well and she seemed really sincere. I treated her really well and respected her time, her work, and her. I feel so betrayed.
Why the fk can't girls just be honest from the start? Why fking lead someone on?
How fking cowardly. How disrespectful. How unconscionable. How pathetic.
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I get lead on so many times it's beginning to really bum me out :(
I feel you on this. She should have been more upfront with her feelings, especially if she didn't feel anything for you. I am also like you and am very accommodating to people. A lot of times I find that turns people off (not sure why).
There seems to be a trend that if a person isn't absolutely perfect for them, they will reject them. I don't know about you, but there are no perfect matches. Every relationship takes work and effort and a desire to be together from both parties.
The only good thing about this situation is now you know the truth. Unfortunately, you had to reject 3 girls for a chance with this one person.
In the future, I would try to remain as objective as possible with a person until you are 100 percent in a relationship with them. This will help you weed out any red flags and really see them for who they are. I know I am very guilty of getting excited over a guy after a really good first date, or some really sweet messages. I have had to reel myself in and really focus on whether the person is even a good match for me or not. Believe it or not, this has saved me some heartache.
In order to do this, you need to mirror the other person. If they send you a message, send one back. But if they aren't responding right away, do not respond back to them right away. I know it seems like playing games, but the only want you are going to be able to see whether they are actually interested is by remaining objective and being able to see any signs of flakiness.
in my opinion, if a person is too busy to see you, chances are they aren't too busy, but rather just not that interested. She most likely could have made time, but chose not to.
I dated a guy like this for over a year. At first he had all this time, then he started saying he was busy with work and family. I was very supportive of him and accommodating, but then he stopped seeing me as much. His family and work life got busy, or so he said. I later found out he was cheating.
I'm really sorry you are going through this. But the positive side is that you are not wasting any more time on her. There are plenty of women out there who will like you and want to be with you. Good luck!2
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