I'm 18 and has never had a girlfriend. Every girl who I think is nice or is attractive that I try to approach, treat me like dirt. I don't know if it's because I'm ugly, or if I'm just unnappealing. But it saddens me. My parents always ask me why I haven't been in a relationship. It's embarrassing for me and it upsets me. I don't want them to think I'm a loser or anything. I don't want to disappoint them... that because of my unability to find true love makes my parents and family sad. It just adds to the pain. I don't know if I'll ever find true love in my life. Every time I feel like I've found something, I get turned away. And it's happened too many times... I've almost given up. If anyone has any advice or anything... I'd really appreciate it.
Most Helpful Girl
well i dont really know your personality or your looks but i suggest just get into a group of buddies. wether it be a school club or some sort of thing.. there are even video game clubs you can join with girls in it. the point is to get the girl to know you slowly. sometimes girls are frightened by guys and act rude as a response out of fear. try not to catch them off guard. make them familiar with you
im going to teach you something that worked on me. back in September on the first day of school a boy in my class compleatly fell for me apon first interaction. i swear i saw hearts in his eyes. i didn't really care for him. he is the sexy type. but usually i go for cute or pretty boys not sexy manly guys. but he was so persistant and unbudging. he always sat next to me. always asked to be my partner. shared snaks and drinks with me. after two months of constantly talking he started to inch closer to me at our desks. getting in my space. but i allowed him there i didn't shy away. i let our elbows touch in class and then that led to us touching eachothers arms while we spoke. and then he asked me to hang out with him and his friends. but he treated me like his girlfriend. very aware of me made sure i wasn't left behind or left out. whispered jokes to me that he didn't share with the others. and when i had walked straight but everyone else turned he grabbed my hand to lead me back. and one week after that he asked me out on a real date. but the trick is.. i already felt like i was dating him.0
Most Helpful Guy
If your parents think you're a loser, then that's their issue. I'm sure almost everyone I meet thinks I'm a huge loser. That doesn't make it true.
So, as far as attracting women... it's tough to do.
For me, it's about trying to get my life to a way I'd want it. Yes, a healthy relationship with a great woman is a big component of that, but if they aren't around when I'm interesting and successful and I've carved out a cool life with people I want in it, then I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. I'm just doing my best not to settle for garbage, and keep my eyes on my goals. I think that's part of it. Not coming off (or being) desperate. I think the trick is about you working on you, and being open to having someone who's not going to derail you or crush your spirit while you keep working on being a better man.