When he's with his friends and they tend to talk about the negatives and he seems to thrive on that more... One of his mates talked about the date for the funeral and another mentioned how much he liked my BFs mothers pancakes...
I feel like shit because everything I say tends to be emotional like 'everything will be ok'... He responds sarcastically by saying 'where is she then?' And 'did you get that from a book?'.
Obviously I let everything he says slide because i understand his situation but why is he happy when his friends make comments but not me.
He came back from uni the other day with red eyes and obviously he was crying but when I asked his response was he doesn't need anyone. I feel useless and the other night I heard him praying while crying. How can I help him when he thinks he's above help?
Most Helpful Guy
I have lost both my parents. I can tell you that I was a kinda rude to the people around me. Especially the women. That's not how I normaly am.
It was like the women wanted me to cry and stuff. That's not how guys go through things. Us guys are kinda taught to go through things silently. But that doesn't mean we don't hurt.
I feel sorry for rude to those ladies because just like you their hearts were in the right place.
Back to you. There is not much you can say. And try not to treat him like you would do one of your female friends.
Let him talk when wants to talk and when he doesn't mention it, don't mention it. He will let you know what he wants. Just do the things the two of you always do and everything will go fine.
Most Helpful Girl
Wow, what a gigantic douchebag.
Yes, I get it, his mom died, very sad. That doesn't excuse treating you like shit, especially when you're trying your damnedest to support him through this.
If he's being so shitty to you while cool with his friends, it seems like he's using you as an emotional punching bag while trying to cope with the loss.
I wouldn't stand for such behaviour, to be honest. Who the fuck is HE to take out his anger on you?
It's not your fault his mom is dead. He has some nerve unloading his little bitch attitude on you.
Seriously, what a fucking prick.
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