Are women okay with holding hands with a man on the first date?

If I grab her hand sometime during the date, would she not like it or would she like it? Say, this is someone you are meeting from online at a public place.

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  • Well don't grab it. That may catch her off gaurd. If you slowly and gently reach for it then that should be okay. I would find that cute.

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  • I would not recommend it if you haven't met prior UNLESS you two have unbelievable chemistry.

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  • If it's at the end of the date and we're taking a walk, then I'd find it really sweet (assuming we had a good time).

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  • Why don't you try brushing your hand against yours while walking and slowing go to holding her hand that way if she doesn't want to she can do it subtly without it becoming awkward or an anxious situation for her.

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  • For me, no. I'm a bit weird about public displays of affection with new romances. I keep my love life very private until things are serious. I would feel uncomfortable.

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  • I think it should only be done if it feels like the dates going really well, and only at the end of the date. I wouldn't wanna feel pressured to hold his hand and be cozy if I wasn't feeling it

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    • I wouldn't look to pressure anyone.

    • I'm sure you wouldn't! Just trying to help give advice because she may not feel a connection even if she's been friendly the whole date. I would personally wait until the second date to make sure she's truly interested and there's a connection before you try to make any moves. Otherwise you could scare her off or make her feel like you're moving too fast if it's on the first date. For the first date, just stick to hugs when you're first meeting and when you're saying goodbye. If she is interested, you'll keep her wanting more

  • It depends entirely on how the date is going.

    After chatting for a few hours I was comfortable with my boyfriend holding my hand because I really liked him and we connected well on a personal level.

    And yes, we did meet online, then met in a public place during the day.😛

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  • Oh man, for me I think I would love that. It shows that a man is very confident and gentle. That he is slowly appreciating you for just being with him on that date- of course some people also like there comfort zone. It just depends on what she's like. If you think she wouldn't mind, do it- but get to know her a little better first before you full blown hold her hands.

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  • I think if the date went well and it's towards the end like you guys are going for a walk or something that'd be fine. Like get to know each other a bit more and get an idea of how the date is going / how she feels about you. I think it sounds nice though :)

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  • Dude people do a lot more than holding hands these days

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  • I think it would depend on how the date goes. Like if you click and get along well I see nothing speaking against it.

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What Guys Said 23

  • On my first dare with my wife, I kissed her before we even said hello. After that went well, I was quite sure she would be fine with me holding her hand.

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    • Kissed her? Like a peck on the cheek or full blown out kiss?

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    • @takumii I never said I was annoying. I said IF I was annoying to other people. People have their own opinions of what they consider annoying. If anything, you were the one that brought up the annoying term with @gray_sailor.

    • yes! let's see a pic. not for proof, just out of curiosity

  • I really like it!! I mean holding hands is gentlemanly and clearly indicates at least a casual commitment to pairing off. But, it's very low key innocent etc too. I think it shows a clear breakdown in barrier that allows for a relationship to develop.

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  • Don't just copy what I do because those things that suit me might not suit you.

    On a first date I often grab her hands and walk down the street with her the moment I see her. I'm just conveying "It's alright to touch" and that makes her also less awkward in touching me. I just grab their hands like it's the most natural thing to do and I never had any problems.

    This probably worked because of my personality and the personalities of the girls in question. If I was shy about doing this I am sure it would not have worked.

    I'd say if you do it do it naturally and don't make it look like it is a big thing.

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  • On one of my online first dates, there was no physical contact even thought we had a great time. Then another first date and we were kissing and petting below the waist, in public.

    It depends. Go what you feel is right.

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  • If it's your first meeting after meeting online, I think it would be a safer bet to offer your arm.

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  • I generally try to do something physical like this first date, if I like the girl, but there's definitely a fear boundary there.

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  • Who cares, its just holding hands. You aren't getting married. Besides, being bold is what women like, being an agreeable loser is boring and thats men like that dont go on dates

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  • If they make the love then yes. I've often found they link you more than the holding hands thing though.

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  • I don't think I would like holding hands on the first date.. That's like a couple thing to me..

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  • do what you feel like doing, dude. That's what women respond to

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