Most Helpful Girl
Well ideally, I thought being in relationship requires both people to come to a conclusion with everything. I'm sure the guy wanted to talk to his wife about it before they confirm it with you. I don't know, I just see that as communication and I don't see that being an issue.
There is no boss in the relationship I am currently in.
Most Helpful Guy
It really depends on who is coming to the door.
Guy shows up from Schwan's (frozen food delivery) and I answer the door. I'd say to my wife, "Hey hon, do we need anything?" I'd decide for myself if I needed ice cream but I want her input for other items as she does cooking and meal planning.
Different guy shows up trying to sell replacement windows. My wife owns the house (had it before we met) but I'm the person who handles all the maintenence, repair & renovation projects.
"Hey sir, I see you have some nice windows there in your living room." the salesman says."Would you like to upgrade the remaining windows in your house?"
"Funny you should mention that." I reply. "I was just saying to my wife how comfortable our living room was ever since I INSTALLED those windows three years ago." "Anyway, have a nice day."
The conversation usually gets passed to the person with the responsibility for making the decision.
We decide HOW to spend money.
For some things, she decides what to spend money on.
For other things, I decide what to spend money on.
For still other things, it doesn't matter who decides.