It started to bother me that he treated our dates like I owed him. We went on a few more where he would tell me, I paid for the last thing, its your turn now. It really killed a lot of the mood that it seemed like he was always keeping tally or a score, and we've since broken it off.
What do you think of the situation? Was I in the wrong about this? Was this guy being a bit cheap?
Most Helpful Guy
I don't think you were wrong. I would be really put off if someone started doing that with me. I understand where he's coming from though, but in my opinion he is going about it all wrong. I think he just wanted to establish that even though he was paying for something at certain times, that didn't mean that it was going to be like that every time. The problem with that is that it makes it seem like he is keeping score as you say. It's also a little rude because he just dictates 'how it is'.
I usually always pay for dinner and I say something like "I got it". Partly because I think it kills some of the mood to figure out the check and divide it. But if it's in e early dating stage I probably won't pay for anything other than food and drinks (unless I know that she doesn't have an easy economy). I would say that everything is always fine as long as everyone assumes that they are paying for themselves.
Most Helpful Girl
I think that perhaps he is struggling financially or on a very tight budget if he's constantly taking note of how much money he's spending. I try not to dismiss a guy as cheap when it comes to situations like this because it really is an act of generosity or a guy to treat a woman to dinner and a movie. Those things can add up depending on where you go to eat, whether or not alcoholic beverages were ordered, and how much of a tip should be given. Nonetheless, he made things awkward by voicing financial stress on a date. I could see how that would kill the vibe or take away some of the 'magic' from having a great date.
I don't think that you were totally in the wrong but you could have been more considerate about his financial position and perhaps suggested a more economical date. Or you could have just simply addressed the topic and asked him what he thinks about who should pay for dates and when/shedding light on the awkward situation he skimmed the surface of.