edit : we aren't dating now, we've just been talking.
- I would leave her but accept the apology (be her friend)
- I would stay with her and accept her apology (date her)
- I wouldn't accept her apology (not be her friend or date her)
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This is a tough one. I'm a pretty no nonsense kind of guy. Major dishonesty is usually grounds for me ending a relationship. That's pretty major. I'd be on the fence as to how I'd deal with this one. If I didn't fire you, I'd definitely have trust issues with you and you'd definitely be in the dog house for a long time.
There are several issues here. First of all you said you're not a liar. Yes, you are. You lied 3 times about your age by your own admission. One who engages in the practice of lying (frequently) is called a liar. I'd think if your lying about that, what else are you? Another issue is for a 24 year old to date a 20 year old is acceptable. A 24 year old to be with a 17 or 18 year old is only acceptable if they were for some reason together while he was in HS. Once you've graduated from high school, if you don't already have a girlfriend it just screams looser to date girls still in HS. Another issue is 17 to 24 is a huge gap in maturity. If he's on top of his game he's getting ready to graduate college if he hasn't already, or working and has is own place and is paying his own way in the world and isn't a total bum. By 24 I had already joined and completed one enlistment in the Marine Corps, finished some college, bought furniture and all the wares of life, had my own place and a live in girlfriend to boot. Another issue is statutory rape. Here in America under 17 is grounds for that in most states if not all. Having a charge like that on your record is kinda of a problem. You put him in a lot of risk! I'd be pissed!
All that said I get why you said you were 20. I'm assuming you were thinking he'd think you were too young if you were truthful and he'd reject you. That said, I'd have to seriously look at how things were going in the the relationship, more than likely 97% no matter how they were going I'd have to dump you
The way you want to explain yourself and come clean is spot on. What I want to know is how did he not notice your age changed 2 times? Either he really didn't pay attention really badly or he's exceedingly dumb. Kinda tough change your story about something so basic and vital and get away with it. Did you also change your actual birth date in lying as well? If so how does a guy not know his girlfriends actual birthday? Kind of an important date to remember no?