He's 15 years older. I'm confused. help?
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That's pretty shitty. He is giving you mixed messages, which, at your age, is going to confuse the hell out of you. It's hard to tell what he is actually thinking, because he isn't really giving enough information to know for sure. He clearly has some trepidation about the whole thing, whether it is about you in the specific or about the situation in the general sense, I can't say for sure, because there isn't enough information there to tell.
The feeling of connection is just a chemical spark, don't give too much credence to it. It's nice to have, but doesn't actually mean anything from a compatibility sense. Nor does it actually mean anything about his intent.
He seems interested but hasn't said anything or explained his feelings because he is either unsure of them, or he is pretty sure that if he tells you his true feelings it will mean he won't have sex with you again in the future, which may be cutting off something he wants. In such a case it is better for him to remain silent, keep you confused, and keep the option open in case he wants to tap it. It's not the 'nice' thing to do, but it is the most sensible thing to do if he is looking out for his own self-interest and not caring about you as a person.
About the wait vs go for it... it depends on what you want to get out of this. The more you think about him, the more the chemicals in your brain will start making associations that can later be difficult to extract yourself from. So just sitting on it hoping for the best can have really bad long term consequences. If you want to be with him, you'll have to have a conversation about what you want and what he wants.
You're right, it is a toughie, because he is being very hard to read. A 30 year old woman presented with the same behaviour would probably also struggle to understand what he was getting at, so it will be incredibly difficult for someone under 20. He is being hard to read, it's not just that you are missing something obvious.
Maybe date someone closer to your age? Within a five year limit is good.
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