Can't get this girl out of my head that I recently dated. The main reason it did not work out is because I found out she was seriously involved with this boy in her early teen years that lasted for more than two SOLID years. It happened during her "innocent" and teen days so he will always be special to her in that regard. They never had sex but they were very close. To make matters worse he broke up with her. So it was not like she broke up with him. And she told me she cried over him. It was her "first love" and first serious relationship she said.
Things were going well until I found that out and I could hardly look at her the same again. And part of it was my fault for bringing it up.
Although she can dent it, a girl will always have a sweet spot for her first forever. It is a sweet and innocent love that can't be replicated. Now that she is in college, love is not as "innocent".
So I don't know, I feel like I am doomed to be alone for life because I can't get over this. I am afraid to develop strong feelings for girls because when I find this out it crushes me.
And if is almost near impossible to find a girl who hasn't loved a boy in her teen years.
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You should have given her more of a chance. No one is perfect, and if she can't go back to the previous ex, then what's the problem? Do you fear that she might not love you as much, or that your love with her might not be as special? Tell you what, she an you can make it special. The future is the specialist, not the past. You can help make memories and bring on new memories and meaning to life. She didn't even have sex with her ex. I am with someone who did have sex with his ex, and it was his first too. I am still with the guy. As long as they say they love you, and won't treat you bad and won't cheat on you why not give it a chance? there are worse things in a relationship. Like if someone cheats on you all the time, or lies to you all the time. Or if you are in a relationship where you have to do everything and they don't do nothing or no sparks or love at all. Think about it! If the good outweighs the bad in your relationship, give it a go.0