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In my humble opinion, and experience:
On the whole women really like to make a 'heart connection' through conversation, caring and kindness from a guy before they commit to being intimate.
Guys on the other hand like to get intimate to feel that 'heart connection'.
Its one of those Men are from Mars and women are from venus things.
But then it also depends on our definition of intimate. You mentioned not even a goodnight kiss on the 3rd date?