It's a fairly new relationship so we have not has sex yet. Basically, long story short: He has a belly that sticks out (and his body is not toned), and it bugs me, and I feel like if we did have sex, that I wouldn't enjoy it.
I am an athletic person, and I at least try to exercise and maintain my shape.
This is the only thing that bothers me (I love everything else about him).
I know this sounds incredibly shallow but I find him more attractive when he has clothes on rather than clothes off. How do I approach this to him, without hurting his feelings?
Most Helpful Guy
Damn hahaha! I don't think it's shallow of you to feel that way. You put in the time and effort to be healthy and look good its only fair to expect the same out of your partner. You know him better than we do I guess you can go about it one of two ways:
1. Try changing his habits for him, little by little. Convince him to go workout with you every so often, make him eat healthier foods. Like if y'all go to get fast food or something, try and get him to order a chicken sandwich instead of a baconator or whatever. Try to convince him to not buy soda when doing groceries get sparkling water instead. Like little things that might start adding up.
2. If y'all are getting serious just be upfront about it. Give him the whole "I care about you and want us to be together for a long time" etc. Feeling that way you do and keeping it to yourself will only be a burden on y'alls relationship.0
Most Helpful Girl
What would you say if he told you something like that? Fuck off, right?
You would start thinking if you could keep your shape forever, what about when you get pregnant, etc.
In other words, you don't approach him.
It's usually taken as a given that people dating you are actually attracted to you... this is a bit sad. Stop leading him on.1