Boyfriend and I had an argument. He ate a piece of pastry and the crumbs fell on the floor. I'd already cooked, cleaned, and wanted to just chill. I asked him nicely if he could pick up the piece of crumb. He said "It can't be. It's not possible. I didn't drop it." There were crumbs on the floor. I picked them up myself, and I said "there were crumbs on the floor and I already threw them away for you. Just don't tell me there were no crumbs like I'm crazy," sounding a little upset.
I sat on the computer to read and just chill out.
Five minutes later, he accused me of being angry still. I said, "No, I'm no longer angry. I'm okay now, I just want to chill and read articles for a bit."
He kept saying, "No you're still angry." Then we got into another argument about why I'm not angry. I kept saying I'm okay. I'm not angry.
He stormed off, and he said, "Fuck you!"
I tried to calm him down, but he was inconsolable. I freaking sprained my ankle in the process.
Two days later, he said he's sorry, but he needs time. What did I do wrong?
- Abusive?Vote A
- Normal?Vote B
Most Helpful Guy
You did absolutely nothing wrong. Is sounds to me like he's a childish brat that need to grow up.
First, it shouldn't matter who dropped them. You asked if he could pick them up, a simple request for avery small chore and he refused.
Secondly, he insisted you were still angry when you just wanted to chill, just as if he wanted to control your feelings.
Third, he should not have left it two days before apologising.
Sadly, this behaviour is all too "normal". Go find a good guy who can do things around the home without being asked.1
Most Helpful Girl
If he's only your boyfriend and showing these behaviors, then if you ever get married, it'll only get worse. My dad was abusive and it was horrible. He sounds self centered and even though you might love him, it's not healthy or safe for you to be in this type of relationship. Talk to someone you trust for your own safety please.1