Why won't boys approach me, instead they just stare?

I'm 18 and I have never had a boyfriend. Please DONT CALL ME CONCIETED IM NOT! But people always stop me on the streets and tell me how I'm so pretty and things and people always ask my mom why I haven't got a boyfriend yet and telling her to watch out for me.. But the problem is I haven't had any boys openly show interest or tell me they like me or even show signs. :( I'm so sad about this now, nearly all of my friends have boyfriends/are talking to boys/have people liking them meanwhile I'm just there and I feel stupid. I'm not sure what to do anymore it really upsets me


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  • Guys have a lot of things to worry about that girls don't realize. For example rejection, being made fun of for trying, she having a boyfriend and he has to deal with an overly jealous boyfriend that now wants to beat him up, etc

    By the way you write I think that boys assume you already have a boyfriend or feel they are out of your league. It helps if you give them (NOT so subtle) signs that you have no boyfriend and are interested. Or better yet, just tell him.

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  • I feel you girl. I'm right there with ya. I was always the one who had to initiate unless a guy just wanted one thing from me. I know people say that girls like us should initiate but the question is, why don't guys initiate anything with us? If they do it with other girls why not us? I got you.

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    • Exactly my problem!! Also the fear of rejection is the worst 😞

    • It is, I get that both guys and girls have this fear but still.

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What Guys Said 13

  • Sounds like you are hanging around people that are just as young and insecure as you. Guys are shy - they dont want rejection - maybe even intimidated by you.

    just relax and let things like conversation happen - eye contact - it flows from there sweetie

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  • Here's a truth from my grandmother: "Romance happens when the guys notice that the girls notice that the guys notice" If the guys aren't getting "go" signals from you then they won't approach you simple as that. If a cute buy is checking you out, then look at him and smile. Give him a chance to know that you are approachable, if not he'll just keep going because he doesn't want to come off as a creep.

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  • Just go up and introduce your self and see where it goes. But make sure he's single.

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  • If guys don't come to you, approach you and ask you out then maybe you should initiate.

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  • I've avoided approaching girls I like mainly because I'm introverted and shy. Maybe your looks intimidate guys or make them think you're gonna reject them cause you're outta their league?

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What Girls Said 3

  • Why don't you try approaching them? Boyfriends don't just come falling out of the sky, you need to make it happen. Find a guy you like, and ask him out.

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  • I know how you feel my mom had friends that had sons who where my age and very attractive yet there moms use to tell my mom "my son would never be enough for you daughter bc she seems to come from a well family" it's funny bc I am humble and our family doesn't have a lot of money either they think bc we dress well and change outfits 2times a day means we are rich lol it's just how I was raised And I always catch guys stare at me make eye contact yet they don't talk to you and they are so hot :( lol I think they feel intimidated by you of your really pretty you probably leave them speechless and yes I mean it bc I've known some guys and they just talk too little and get red lol I don't know why :( either ways I hope you find someone bc for sure you will also a good tip is for you to start the convo first like maybe something like hey how's your day going :) or hi I'm ____ how are you lol

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  • They are smoking cracks

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