- She most likely wants the D
- Doesn't want it
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I recommend you to read this. Stop playing games, dump her you want women, not girl.
The Rule of Twos
“Once is a mistake, twice is a choice.”
When pursuing a girl, if she ignores, rejects, or disrespects you TWICE, you immediately walk away and never contact her again. No apologies, no goodbyes, nothing. As far as you are concerned, she no longer exists.
- If you ask for a girl’s number and she refuses twice, walk away.
- If you text a girl twice with no response, walk away.
- If she refuses plans twice (with no offer to reschedule), walk away.
- If she flakes or cancels last minute twice, walk away.
- If she shuts you down sexually twice, walk away.
- If she disrespects or belittles you twice (physically, verbally, socially), walk away.
Some men will offer a girl two chances at each step. The less forgiving among you may find two chances total more appropriate. Regardless, with this method you can reliably pursue a girl and allow the relationship to run its course, while also avoiding oneitis.
There is no ambiguity to the interaction. By breaking the Rule of Twos she clearly demonstrates a lack of interest (allowing you to walk away with closure), while simultaneously giving you a clear point of exit (allowing you to eliminate any possibility of oneitis).
When you walk away, you need to do so cleanly. Don’t rationalize to yourself that she would be a “really cool friend.” Don’t send her some long butthurt essay via text. Don’t send her a snapchat of some other girl sucking your dick. Any of the above options just give her the drama all women crave along with ammunition to use against you in the future. Ironically, to give yourself closure you need to deny it to her. Just walk away with your dignity and frame intact.
She may or may not reach out to you later, at which point you can decide how you want to proceed. The key difference is that now she is entering YOUR frame and you dictate how the relationship proceeds. As always, the Rule of Twos applies, perhaps with even more stringent criteria.
Why This Works
Subtle rejections can often be mistaken for shit tests. There are a plethora of shit tests that fit the mold of a basic rejection. “I have a boyfriend. I don’t date short guys. I don’t put out on the first date.” and so on. But what shit tests have in common is that the girl still engages you. She engages you because she is interested or attracted, and wants to determine that you are a worthy sexual partner. By violating1