I hooked up with the other guy a few times. I had had a conversation with him when he had a girlfriend that sometimes I wish I could just do friends with benefits. We didn't hook up until months later, maybe 6 times. I thought maybe he was single but it was on Facebook. It never came down so since Facebook still said he had a girlfriend I started dating, he never talked about her.
I just labeled things with the new guy a few weeks ago (he asked). But I'd been happily dating him two months.
The other guy hits me up and I tell him I have a boyfriend. Then I find out he's been single since April but left it on Facebook because he could loose his job if he dates anyone he works with (he's a manager) and since he's never on Facebook anyway he just left it. He's liked me this whole time, but thought I only wanted a friends with benefits and was respecting that so he didn't persue more.
I'm really conflicted. This is a mess. I've considered telling my new boyfriend what's going on. I'm happy with him, but if I knew, I would've seen where things went. But I don't know if I'd be happier or less happy and I don't want to ruin things. I didn't see a reason to wait when I was single for a long time. I thought he was happy, I should move on.
- Tell your boyfriend how you feel
- Break up with your boyfriend
- Forget the other guy (I have tried this too)