What do I do about this girl?
What Girls Said 2
maybe she just has a flirty personality? I know a lot of the time, guys misinterpret a girl who wants to be friends with her being interested in them. why don't you tell her how you feel when she's not drunk and see how she responds?
Maybe she wants friends with benefits
What Guys Said 1
This is actually pretty simple. Alcohol raises testosterone in both males and females. This hormone increases sex drive. Alcohol lowers inhibitions as well. When she's under the influence she's touchy feely because she's horny, and her inhibitions are lowered. She is also on the rebound. She likely has decreased confidence and needs and ego boost.
If your looking to get laid or just fool around you should go for it, because I predict that's all you will get from her. She probably feels somewhat safe with you and I think she'd be like this with any guy she felt somewhat safe with. Next time she does that, double your game. You'll probably at least make out with her.
When she's sober she "friend zoned" you. The sad reality is she's not interested in you as a boyfriend and probably as nothing else unless she's been drinking.
The I don't want to break up our group of friends is pure BS. That's her way of telling you she's not interested. People when they're highly interested in someone break up families let alone groups of friends. I think if she was really into you, you wouldn't hear that lame excuse.
Ask yourself "Why would she be afraid of breaking up the group"? Either she would enter into a relationship with no serious intent in it, or doesn't foresee it lasting very long. Who is concerned about the relationship ending before it's even started.
Anytime you hear the "let's be friends thing" it pretty much means nothing is going to happen with that chick and the chances of that changing ever are almost 0%.
Lastly, if you feel she still has feelings for her ex, you're probably right. You don't want to end up being a short term rebound for her do you? If your not interested in at least minimally making out and some heavy petting next time she's drinking, move on. Also it is possible if you make a bold move WITHOUT discussing it with her, she might see you have confidence and some balls and you might ignite passion in her and might be able to get a relationship going, maybe if you're lucky. Don't confront her about her feelings about you. Next time she gets touchy feely, kiss her. Steal a kiss. She'll either go with it or shut you down. If she goes with it, it's a win. If she shuts you down its still a win. Better she think of you as a little ballsy and slightly sexually aggressive than nice and sweet and caring. It might set things up down the road for you and her, but ultimately the "friend zone" is ominous at best.
Good luck and happy hunting.
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