I text my ex last night asking "can I see you?" We've been broken up 3 months, we kept in contact until about last month and he stopped replying to my 2 attempts at contact with him. After I text him he didn't reply for a few hours and he text "I was out sorry I don't think that would be a good idea :/" I really miss him and wanted to get him back I don't know what to do tbh, I'm happy he replied and he didn't exactly say no. But is there a chance he will see me? Is there anything else I can do?
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Most Helpful Guy
Well, given the extra information in the comments that you provided, I might give him another month or two, then try again. The way you describe it, it seems as though he feels as though he is an impediment or burden to you. That you are better off without him. And, he could be. If it was a normal guy, I would say "I don't think that's a good idea" would be construed as a blatant "I don't want to hurt your feelings, so I'm trying to let you down gently, but hell no, go away." But, if he does have issues with depression and feelings of low self-worth, then he might just be trying to protect you. Might. This all depends on what his intentions are, and it's very difficult to know that. So, you might try to find out what they are.
I've been in similar situations. I've embarrassed myself to no end going to see a person I really wanted to be with, face to face to get absolute closure. To really *know*. And, I felt like absolute shit after, along with thinking "why the hell did I even bother?" And I've had a couple girls contact me after a break up. And I was the one who backed them off. I felt the same way, like they were better off without me. And they probably were. Or maybe not. Afterwards, I thought about it and thought "there's no way to tell the future. Maybe we could have held each other up." Maybe if that is what he is thinking, you can tell him that he can't see the future--and, if you really love him, that you're willing to go through some hard times to be with him. If you really are.
Honestly, the way I thought back then was "Well, if they really love me, they will come back, even when I push them away." That whole saying "If you love them let them go. If they come back, they were always yours. If they don't, they were never yours." I don't know if that's true. But I don't think it is. I think you have to hold on to the people you love. But, it is also dependent on their wishes. If he simply will not, nothing u can do, and u will have to let go. Perhaps keep *vaguely*, barely in contact and see if he changes.
Maybe ask him *why* he doesn't think it's a good idea. Don't put any faith in being with him again. Don't trust that this will just work out. Sometimes it doesn't, even when you really want it to.
I understand why everyone is saying just move on. But I've done that, too, and regretted that, as well. It's your decision. It's something you have to figure out. You'll probably regret it both ways. So which way will you regret least?0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm sorry, but I think he has made it extremely clear, he doesn't want to see you. He has done you a favour by replying to you. It is a courteous thing to do, so you are not left hanging. But he is spelling it loud and clear that he doesn't Want to get back to you.
He needs space to get over you, and so do you. He is being polite now, but of You keep texting him, he will first ignore you, and perhaps later block your number...
Walk away with your dignity intact. Let the healing process begin...1
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