Im an Asian international student doing grad school in the US. There is a girl who happens to be white that I met in grad school class, I really like her as she's very nice and kind, and have known her for one and a half year, about a year ago, I asked her for a date, but she rejected with a reason that she was too busy with school, so I could only be friends with her. After that, we have been good friends, we went out together many times, I have waited until she graduated, which is couple days ago, and asked her again, she said she's now talking to an italian guy who's working in the US, and replied me that she does not want to date me due to cultural difference, she only prefers to date an American guy, tho, not specifically white, which I dont know if she's telling the truth as she's now talking to an italian guy who is white. So I wonder if it is possible to surpass this barrier, and date a white girl as an international Asian guy?
How to surpass cultural difference when it comes to dating a white American girl?
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Yes, it is possible to surpass the barrier. :) In fact, if I recall correctly from marriage statistics, the most common kind of mixed couple -- that happens for Asian guys in America -- is with white girls. And I've personally known and seen several Asian guy/white girl couples in the US, and most of those girls -- if I might add -- ranged from above-average in looks to insanely attractive, lol.
As long as a guy of any race has conviction and aggressively goes after what he wants in life, he will often get it.
But no guy gets everything that he wants all the time. xD So, sorry to say this, man -- but this one particular girl you want from grad school doesn't like you back. :( She made excuses not to date you! First she claimed it was because she was "too busy", and then now she claims it's because she wants an "American guy"... and then proceeds to date a guy from Italy, LOL. <_<
As the saying goes: look at what she does, not what she says.
If a girl says no once, sometimes it may be because of a misunderstanding, not the right time, uncertainty, etc. BUT, usually I find that when I try reaching out to a girl TWICE and still end up falling on my face, it's time to let her go. She doesn't want you. But there are other girls out there who might. You've just gotta move on from this one, in order to see the others.0
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Asians should preserve arranged marriages and their cultures. Stop copying us. Feminism was a mistake0
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