This guy and I never met but we've been talking online for a couple of months and he's "legit" like not dangerous, whatever. I have him on Facebook and we have similar friends and whatnot. He seems like a genuinely great soft nice dude. The thing is, a couple months ago I broke up with my first boyfriend ever (we only dated for 4 months but spent every day together). I'm 21 now. My last relationship was terrible; he had anger problems; he treated me poorly and was so selfish and had disgusting behavior. Sexually I was not treated well. That's all I'll say. (It just took me so long to realize? I don't know WHAT I was thinking... I'm in disbelief that my head was that far up in the clouds... Complete disbelief as to who I even was). My family and friends didn't like him; they warned me of it; I disagreed and defended him; they were right. It's not until now that I realize it. And now whenever I think of any man'a hands on me or anything, I feel like wretching.. Serious disgust and I just don't want to think about it. I feel untouchable right now and it's as if I don't want to be touched by any guy. It just sucks because this guy makes me laugh, he's so sweet... But I'm just really scared and don't want to do anything with anyone, yet I do? I don't know what to do?
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Go out with him and have fun. If you think he is fun on FB he will be hilarious in person. Just allow yourself some space from the leariness of touch at this point. If he wants to get touchy shut it down and let him know it isn't going to go fast1