i have been talking to this guy and im really starting to like him and we're supposed to hang out for the first time this weekend but there's a couple things i know that bother of us are keeping from eachother. MY dad died a few years ago and i dont really like to talk about it and its a conversation killer so i havnt brought it up. I know he has a kid but i dont know the story behing it. he hasn't brought it up at all. should i be concerned that he hasn't mentioned it yet? im not going to ask him about it if he's not ready to tell me, it doesn't bother be that he has a baby but i just dont know if i should be concerned that he hasn't told me yet. how long should i wait before i should be worried he hasn't mentioned it?
Most Helpful Guy
Well I would tell this to the guy that you are seeing right away about a baby being in the picture.. no point in side stepping that one.. and if the sock was on the other foot I would tell the women that I was interested in about a baby soon as possible, but also in my unique situation.. before I told her that news.. I would first tell her that in a round about way there are two baby's in this relationship.. one being me.. not that I am a baby in any way shape or form.. but I do wear diapers and rubber pants same as the baby does.. and if that was or turned out to be some stumbling block... well then the second part of the answer would not really matter and it would then not even be discussed.. as any women that I want has to want and except all of me and that includes what I wear.. I did not ever ask to wear them.. it was just bad luck that it happened to me like it did.. but seen as I do wear them now and still enjoy all life's perks just like anyone else.. I just move on and if she is not the right women for me.. well so be it.. lots of other fish in the sea.. take care and have a nice day0
Most Helpful Girl
Excuse me? How can he, even?
How can he.
Your kids ARE you. They are part of you.
If he has any significant time with that kid, this is just beyond weird. Sooo far beyond weird.
My husband is an industrial-grade test tube of testosterone. He is not a talker, or a sharer, or a socializer, except with his annoying wife who just will not leave him alone (hi!).
But when he DOES open his mouth? His son football bla bla, his daughter built this car thing bla bla. Kids kids kids. That's pretty much 95 percent of it. The other 5 percent, well, that's classified. ::innocent look::
You see my point. A father is a father first, and everything else approximately 483,759,668th. That should be almost all he DOES talk about.
Unless there's another parent, and a custody battle, and all that. Because that shit, is shit. And then that is a whole different ball game.
Not to mention the ball game of being The Other Woman, whom **that** woman will make the kid hate.
I mean... Um. I've pretty much made my whole life out of putting myself in difficult situations, but that is pretty much THE one I could not take.0