It seems so EVERYWHERE that we all take the slightest thing to mean rejection... or small things lead to big leaps damaging trust. For instance, if a guy isn't good at leading, everyone will say 'oh HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU - MOVE ON - he must be dating other girls!'
If a girl is insecure and doesn't chase a guy because she's fearing rejection, you guessed it, everyone will say 'she's not into you, stop wasting your time.'
I think that advice, while we all seek it out, at times, just might do more harm than good. At the end of the day, we're all better off judging with our own eyes. I think while some outsiders might have insight, they can't know everything we know first hand.
Most Helpful Guy
no. people just try to ask for generic advice on specific instances. no, not every guy likes fat chicks. not every girl cares if you're 6'5 and look like an nfl linebacker. we don't know if he likes you because he picked his nose in front of you. we don't know if she wants the d because she took a sip of soda while you were walking by. that's the problem.1
Most Helpful Girl
You are absolutely right.
It is a good thing coming here for example looking for some advice but they cannot know for sure and yes some do judge too harshly. One should always trust their own guts, follow their heart and for god's sake ask the person about what you are so worried about! A bad advice, a harsh judgment can lead us asking for advice into the wrong direction and into wrong thinking, you feel me? I have asked for dating advice here and a stranger told me something along that he's not interested in me, only in sex so I should just move on based on what I said. That guy was crazy about me. Just saying.1