If you found your dream soulmate in all details
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sure. why waste time?1
Hell no. I don't know how some people get married so quickly. It's probably a big part of why the divorce rate is so high. You get married before the shine wears off of someone and then two, three years down the line you realize you can't stand this asshole, haha. Plus there's the kids dynamic, that changes a lot, from what I've witnessed anyway. I was watching a Louis CK standup last night and he said something to the effect of: "Before you have kids, you have a relationship, and you work on it, and try to strengthen it and fix it. Then you have a kid and it's like " Wow, this little person came from me, it's got my DNA, this is my number one priority in life...", then you look at the other person like "... and I don't even know THIS asshole, who the fuck are you?"" But kids or none, I can't even imagine how we're expected to make a supposed lifelong commitment to someone if you haven't known them for 5-10 years, minimum. I've thought people were the best since indoor plumbing for periods of time, and then one day, not even for a solid reason, probably just an accumulation of idiosyncrasies, suddenly I can't stand to even be around you, let alone have a relationship. Put it this way: if I married every girl I was all head over heels for in the first months, I'd have like 20 ex-wives.
Yes if the signs are all clear.
Too soon to tell if he/she is your soulmate. Sure I can see people getting married to their SO, but these people has a history shared (e. g., childhood friends or situation-related). Some rushes into marriage saying he/she found their soulmate and get married too quickly only to hear a couple of years that they've been divorce... so I asked them, "Didn't you tell me he/she was your soulmate?"
A month? No damn way! That's too short a time period to know someone on a level needed to get married!
Yes. Marriage is always the end goal for me.
If I've found my dream soulmate, then they'd share my opinion that it's too early. We'd be soulmates, after all, right? So there should be no problem at all to just date for a few years and then get married if we even want to get married at all. Some people prefer not to be legally married.
No, I never want to get married in my lifetime.
Not a chance. Even 1 year isn't enough time.
Just no. Not even 3 years would cut it.
Highly unlikely, but not completely out of the question.
In general, when I know I want something badly I'm willing to buck convention to get it.
Only in Las Vegas.
One month is too soon to know every thing about the person
No. She'll still be there in a year or two if she's truly my soul mate so there's no need to rush into marriage
That's way to fast. You've only just scratched the surface as far as personality, problem handling, stress, etc. You don't truly know someone after a month.
"Hell to the no! Norbit is out of here! It will be after a long time of hell that a man sucks a poison out of another man's ass!"
I don't know why I put that there but, nope... LOL.
One of the details of my dream soulmate is that she wouldn't allow a marriage to take place between us, for my sake.
That seem rather impulsive yeah?
Only a month? no way a year minimum preferably 2 years at least a month is just way to little time.
Fuck no, I wouldn't even marry after just a year.
Damn! A month is short to even make a good 'just friend'.
Never. Only drugged.
no... I don't think I can fully know a person after only 1 month
no that is way to soon
5 years minimum
i've thought everyone was 'the one' in the first few months.
every single one.
No I wouldn't don't believe that's enough time at all
Need at least 6 months
Yes and I did. I knew when I had found 'the one' almost immediately but I had been with a lot of lemons before then...
Mine was an old friend I had met at a friends party. We ended up on a friends email list full of bad jokes and a few years later (he had been married but was now single) I was in the same city and I asked if he fancied meeting for coffee. Five days after that I spent a week at his house and we had both kind of decided at the end of that we wanted to be together.
Four months later he came to stay at my parents with me, I got a lovely diamond ring and eleven months later in November 2003 we were married. I still love him as much now as I did then.
No. There is absolutely no way to know enough about someone in that amount of time, let alone knowing yourself to see if you want to commit to the person long term... It took me 2 years to discover that the sweet, gentlemanly, mature man I was best friends with was actually a total creep/cheater with a dad who was a registered sex offender. And that was with us texting almost every day, and telling each other "everything."
It takes a while to get comfortable with another person, then a while to get to know their nuisances, like their values, views on important things like politics and religion (not that you have to agree on everything, but it shouldn't be a shock once you are married, and you find out one is conservative and the other is liberal, or something similar) you can't wait to get married to see how they are with kids or animals. Maybe he's the sweetest guy, but then you find out he kicks puppies or something. Maybe something you do is against their personal beliefs, but you are unwilling to stop (like a religious practice)
After all that, you have to come to terms with the amount of sacrifice/compromise you will have to make in order for a marriage to work. Then there has to be open lines of communication, where you aren't uncomfortable with telling them ANYTHING... And you have to be willing to take all their baggage. That all takes much longer than a month. And it's why we have so many divorces. People get married because of infatuation, and then they realize that they added two different people that can't get along.
I absolutely would have married that boy the second he first looked at me. Through me. With those burning eyes of his.
That exact second.
Right there, I was his. For life. The rest was just details.
No, Never a Month of Mondays but Instead... In another country the following year, dear.
It was a hasty decision perhaps, I got caught up in the moment of a dream come true to Marry someone in a place that was far away, and then after returning to American Soil.. Toil.
Good luck. xx
ONLY if I'd known the person most of my life, we were best friends and I felt I knew everything about them which by the looks of things won't happen so my answer is no.
Lol no. That's reckless as fuck.
Nope that's some crazy shot right there.
No, I would prefer not to marry someone until we'd been together for two years.
no. a month is much too soon.
No that seems wayyyy to fast for me. Not in a month in a relationship
Nope. I have commitment issues. One month? I wouldn't be able to handle the pressure.
No. I really don't think you can know all you need to know about them in such a short period of time. You can't get to know his family the way that you'd want to before your marriage. It's better to wait to be sure.
everyone has imperfections and you usually won't notice them at first. give it at least a year. if you wanna be with them then why rush?
eh no, maybe after a year
No. I don't think thats a good idea.
And even if they're your soulmate, whats the rush?
It doesn't hurt to wait. Waiting and learning to wait is a type of preparation. If you can't learn patience now, there will be many things that come along that you will not be able to handle. It's a sign of maturity.
Get married after a month? I'll have truly fucked up if I ever do that shit.
If I legit KNEW this was my soulmate? Yes.
Never. It needs almost 2 years of time to really get to know a person. Know their character at all times, whether you can manage it etc etc
No, I need at least 3 years.
It's too fast.
Sure, after a prayer.
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