We broke up 2 weeks ago and it has been a hell. We haven't speak in 5 days and now I feel that I am obsessed.
For example, sometimes I check his last connection and when he is online for a long time I picture him talking with other girl or I read and read all of our past texts.
Is my behavior unhealthy or is normal and part of the break up?
Most Helpful Guy
I promise you, follow my advice STRICTLY and you'll get over him in no time:
-Get out your phone and set an alarm right now for half an hour.
Put on some sad music/music you associate with him and do your best to upset yourself - you need to grieve for the relationship.
During this time you're welcome to stalk him on social media and look at photos of him.
Decide how long you are going to grieve for - maximum is three days.
SET YOURSELF A NEAR AND CLEAR ENDPOINT
After you've finished your period of grieving:
-Stop interacting with him, stop watching his twitter. You don't have to delete photos of your relationship, but put them all on a memory stick, into a box and hide them in your loft
SET A DATE YOU CAN OPEN THEM IN SIX MONTHS
-Once you've moved all the stuff from your relationship that you want to keep into the box, delete all of it from your phone/computer.
Erase/hide everything that reminds you off him and delete him (or at least mute him, if you guys are staying distant friends) on social media
-Close the door on him (in your head) and forget about ever getting back with him. If you guys are remaining distant friends then don't delete him on social media - but at least mute his notifications.
I know how hard it is to accept this, (love has been scientifically shown to be similar to addiction. But you have to ) but Ifyou want to forget him, you have to move on as if nothing will ever happen between you again - because unfortunately it won't.
-Look at YOUR facebook/diary/twitter from BEFORE you were interested in him and remember the stuff you used to do.
-Go and do the stuff you enjoy doing without him. You're welcome to treat yourself A LITTLE BIT during this time, but don't use it as a crutch.
FOLLOW THESE STEPS RIGIDLY - I promise you it gets much much easier after the first couple of days.
I wish you luck! Hope you feel better soon1
Most Helpful Girl
while your looking at his whatsapp connection chances are he's looking at yours... Had ex dump me and has stalked me for 2 years ESP on dating websites got so bad eventually gave him my Kik name so he would leave me alone in peace on sites and stop contacting me, it worked not a peep from him... he wants to see if Ill post a picture of who I might be dating... now that's creepy! What your doing is normal you are grieving... in time you'll delete the messages then his phone number and accept its over... he's not blocked you so that means he sees you and you see him... I'd go ghost on him make him wonder what your up to etc... childish yes but it makes it look your over him1