I overthink everything but would that make you feel insecure?
If someone openly told you that to start with, they didn't really think you were their type and weren't attracted to you, but now after spending more time together want a relationship with you.
Most Helpful Guy
I feel like a relationship would be bad idea if she still found you unattractive. Someone who can overlook any physical flaw (aka someone who only cares about personality) is one thing, but it is a problem if the person does care about looks yet imagines your personality will make up for it.
-- As a person with a partner who doesn't find you attractive, you might start feeling like you need to compensate. Rather, you may be thinking that you aren't good enough.
-- Many people in this situation would be most likely paranoid that the SO would be going for someone else as well... Like being worried that she seeks fulfillment for your own flaws.
-- It could lead to a person feel like they are being settled upon. I imagine that is kind of an awful feeling.1
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Most Helpful Girl
That'd be a solid no.
If someone initially tells me I'm not their type and not attractive to them then they are not the kind of person I want to be with. I would immediately fall under the impression that they are relying on me as either a last resort or if they like my personality alone, which is nice and all, but if I felt physically unattractive to my partner that would detrimentally damage our intimate relationship.
If they don't see my value or see me as physically attractive from the very beginning then they need to accept that this completely removes the possibility of us ever being together.0