i recently met this guy online, we've been talking about a month and have gone on about 5 dates so far.
He's REALLY into me, and i like him, i like to hang out with him, but im definitely not in love with him.
we don't have too much in common, and i thought that would get better with time, but we have a lot of the same conversations. I'd like to give him that kind of time but i also don't want to give him the wrong idea.
he's also really handsy, which I've talked to him about cause it can make me uncomfortable but it still happens.
he's making all these plans around me for Valentine's day (i know he's going to ask me to be his girlfriend) and the future and it's freaking me out because im not sure that's what i want.
i don't really know how to deal with breakups (especially since we're not technically dating), and it's kind of making me feel guilty that he's so much more into me.
what do i do?
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You don't have much in common, but have the same conversations. This can happen in the beginning of a courtship when at least one of the persons is very interested in the other. It is because the conversations revolve around the two of you. You are getting to know each other and hence there is a lot to talk about. You can have a good conversation with anyone so Long as the people are open to talking about themselves, their lives and/or asking about yours. But if you don't have much in common, with time these conversations will die out.
To test if you have good conversation with a person, see if they go beyond you and him, and about other things in general...
Anyway coming to your question, it is obvious that your feelings for him are at most Luke warm. You don't seem to be physically attracted to him either since you don't like his advances. I think in this situation it would be best to stop wasting each other's time and end things. It's ok, it is not a break up, like you said, cos you aren't boy Friend and Girlfriend. Just have a talk with him and explain that you don't see this progressing romantically, and tell him why. Better sooner than later, cos he seems to be getting more and more invested.0