We were at a club and a guy sexually harassed and assaulted me. I told my boyfriend that the guy was sexually harassing me and had touched me and kissed me on my neck. My boyfriend made a joke of it then carried on talking to a girl and some guy. I spoke to staff who had no security and they said they would remove him. When I saw the guy again I decided to call the police. Whilst outside the club the guy approached me an I ran away. My boyfriend then left me on my onw. His excuses are he was drunk (we have the same amount but he was able to direct his friend to the club, hold conversations and make a joke of what had happened), h said it's the sort of thing he expects all women have to deal with so saw it as no big deal, he didint think it was that serious and he thought I was ok and could handle it. His reason for leaving me on my own whilst waiting for the police (after t guy came up to me) was that he thought I didn't want him there, he was looking for the guy, he was looking for the police. We have been together for 3yrs. There have been other incidents where a friend of his called me the N word and a stranger shouted it at me in the stree ( I am mixed and we are and IR couple) . On all those occasions he did/said nothing except 'how d you think I felt? I've never dealt with that before'. We are both 28 years old and in many ways he is immature. I felt completely on my own and feel like I can not trust him. I am madly in love with him and at one point wanted to marry him. What I'm really looking for is validation/confirmation.
My boyfriend couldn't fight his way out if a wet paper bag so I really wasn't expecting that. But I have friends, female friends more protective and caring. Hell even a female stranger actually helped me.
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As Wise as an ol owl that I think that I Am here, dear, I can Safely Confirm... He doesn't care enough Nor love You enough for my own Satisfaction.
I am quite sure tha the also has pulled some real punches in the past with you that have also shown you He doesn't Go to bat for you. I feel that deep down, no clowning around, He is Selfish, Cares only about his own self and Doesn't give a rat's Behind with You on his Mind. And just Maybe Everything Combined has been a Full Circle Problem Pattern within all of these '3 years.'
Time to Look elsewhere and perhaps take a Break. As he Grows Older, he will Not Get Bolder but More... Sassy for his own smart breeches.
You deserve better. You Have wasted enough Time in the ring with This.. Thing. Maybe it is time to Run away from this loser as well.
Never Mind 'Madly in love with him,' You are Not in his own Hear, even when Apart And... Sadly, he is Only Married to Him.
Good luck and Hoping you are feeling better. xx