I've been seeing this 29 year old for two months now, and we're in love with each other. He's everything I could ask for: smart, artsy, experienced, a philosphy teacher at university (yeah, kind of a fantasy thingyy) and the most open-minded person I've met. He's also from Spain, so he's pretty liberal about our relationship and doesn't give much thought to the age gap. I consider myself open-minded too, but coming from a more conservative context (Mexico) I'm not used to seeing that kind of relationships and sometimes think too much about the fact that I'm 18 and he's 29. Of course, this doesn't mean I think I should stop seeing him, I'm just wondering what other people think about this gap... is it too much? Or is it not THAT bad because "hey, it's not like he's 40"?
For example, what would be your first thoughts if you saw us in the street (the difference is kinda obvious)?
Most Helpful Guy
I think that anything is possible. I would have been a nay-sayer before, saying that he's just looking for a young trophy to trot around. Now though, I'm 32 and I'm actually seeing a 19 year old woman. I think I'm more invested in the relationship than she is too. For her, she has an exciting, experienced, older man, with a career, and knows what he wants out of life. I have a young, vibrant woman, with the energy to keep up, and who I enjoy exposing to new things. I'm sure she'll probably move on to someone closer to her in age, but if not then I'll be very happy.1
Most Helpful Girl
Hun, I know hundreds and hundreds of married couples, mb even a thousand.
In the VAST majority of the best-functioning couples -- where "best-functioning" includes sexuality, logistics, emotional compatibility, finances, and just big life decisions in general -- the husband is 5 to 12 years older than the wife.
Like, at least 97 percent of the best-functioning couples.
Yr age difference seems big now, but it will seem smaller and smaller as time goes on.
Honestly, if you are still together just 1-2 years from now, you'll probably have forgotten all about the age difference, unless some conversation comes up in which it's specifically a relevant issue (e. g. timing of having children).
Otherwise, literally, you will just forget that the difference even exists.
(Until he asks whether you remember something that happened 3 years before you were born, and then you can have a good laugh together.)1
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