My boyfriend is 11 years older than me. We have been together 1 year and 3 months. He has an ex wife and he is still legally married to another but in the process of divorcing (I can't go into too many details, I'd be here all night and my head literally hurts from crying so much.)
our fight tonight started because he said he would have to personally deliver the papers to her, without me of course and I said 3 way call her first so I can hear and many other suggestions I. told him I did not feel comfortable with that, it escalated into a fight about both his exes,(one the mother of his kids). He called me stupid, retarded, childish, told me I have dumbo ears, threatened to beat up my grandma for getting in his business, pea brain, moron, bitch and so on. He made me feel like I am the bad guy and I am worthless and he said he'd rather be single than deal with somebody who starts arguments. This is bout the 497th argument we've had about the women in his life/past. I always end up crying for hours after our fights and whining to him.(This was on the phone by the way, he was at work)
I just love the man, I'm addicted to him. and also if he leaves me, he takes our bulldog who is one of my best friends and my baby girl and well many reasons why I cannot let go :(
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I was in a relationship similar to yours. In short, I was addicted to him. I breathe him. Additionally, he would verbally abuse me, calling me stupid, idiot, whore, etc. It was toxic and I knew it was slowly killing me. So I did the best decision I've ever made (and will never regret it) by leaving this draining, toxic relationship.
So, yes, he is verbally abusing you. And I would suggest, that you consider leaving this relationship. Nothing postive will come of you if stay in this relationship.