When I was in hs, I got kind of emotionally abused by my first boyfriend. He was always insecure and often told me that I might get controlled by other guys. In order to get attentions he told me so many horrible lies and also forbid me to talk to any guys. Since then I don't like guys who try to control me but I have been getting approached by guys who like controlling.
So whats type of girls do controlling guys like you think? And how can I find nice and genuine guys?
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Not all dominant guys are overly controlling like your ex. But there is "controlling guys", and are one of the toxic type of people. Usually they look for kinder, genuine people to take advantage of (sadly why you can't be too nice all the time to everyone). They don't go for someone who's a bit selfish and not so easily controlled (have strong opinions etc.) because then they won't successfully control them the way they want to.
To avoid these types you don't have to give up selflessness, you just simply have to watch out who you're helping/being nice to. You have to be cautious and observing in order to not fall for lies and deceit. Show that you are a strong and independent person who can very clearly think for themselves and stand up for themselves. Generally controlling type of guys will become less drawn to you (there's some still there), and in turn more genuine guys will be drawn to you instead, but a lot of the time, dating and friendship can be quite a lottery, sometimes it's just all down to luck.3