When it comes to looking for guys, I can't help but notice their appearance first. So I feel like that makes me shallow, but I don't go for conventional "hot" appearances. I honestly don't care if you have a six pack abs or not. But I do care about the way you present yourself with clothes, hygiene, and I have a weird thing that a guy has to have nice teeth since I used to work in the dental field and that stuff is important to me. A guy could have the best personality but if I don't find him attractive initially most of the time nothing is going to change my feelings about him. I dont know if that makes me too picky or if thats kind of normal; my mom thinks I'm too picky and shallow haha.
What do you consider "shallow" to be?
Most Helpful Guy
There is a very fine line between 'having standards' and 'being shallow', when it comes to appearance. As long as you aren't depending on the guy's natural looks (which he can't change), you aren't being shallow. Actually, you are only having realistic standards here. Don't worry! :)4
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Most Helpful Girl
I don't think that's shallow at all. People are designed to be attracted to people that they have a good chance of making viable young with, and that attraction is chemical. If it isn't there it's not there. Shallow in this department is when you are willing to deny or claim having an attraction based on how you think your association with that person will make you look to other people. And presentation can be a little shallow if you mean he has to wear an expensive style for you to like him, etc... But mostly it's just about respect. Anyone (mostly) can wash themselves and their clothes and brush their teeth. Someone who doesn't have general self care down is probably not in a place where they can open themselves up to another person.1