I met a guy recently he is a really nice, sweet, kind person. He's reasonably attractive, not ugly but not really the type I go for. He's a lot skinnier and not as good looking as I'd usually go for. But he's a nice guy.
My problem is I'm attracted to the wrong guys that are usually emotionally unavailable and disappear after the chase. I've not dated a guy for 3 years.
I miss certain aspects of a relationship as most people do and would love to see someone on a casual basis but not in the sense that we are just Fbuddies.
I like this guy and I'm tempted to get involved however I feel he's more invested than me and I don't want to hurt him. What can I say to him that best describes how I feel. I'm rubbish when talking to men...
Most Helpful Guy
Yes I'd date someone I wasn't initially attracted to.
Preferences beyond the gender binary and evolutionary adaptations are for the most part, conditioned. So long as he or she is sufficiently male or female biologically, then attraction can form.
The fact you insist on a physical "type" is what's limiting you from experiencing the true differentiator among us, and that's personality.
With an open mind, that "type" you assume is the only form of specimen you'll accept actually changes.
For me, my preference changed or was superseded by her personality. I'm wise enough to know a "once in a lifetime" type of girl when I see one, and imagining being without her someday feels sad. So I'm all over her, fighting to be with her.
It's ironic because she was not a factor at first and I thought I'd be the one having to push her away. Superficially, people would see this as lopsided because apparently I'm a bit higher on the looks scale, which is a sad reality. Screw it, life sucks too much to let the good people go. She's mine.0
Most Helpful Girl
I think you should try it. To me there's a difference between a t ype and not being attracted to someone. If I full on didn't find someone attractive then usually I just have platonic feelings for him and can't force myself to have romantic feelings. Guys dont have to ve my type though.0