Just a debate we were having at work!
Is it common sense to back off but remain polite after turning someone down?
Does the former relationship (friends/acquaintances/strangers) change how you'd treat them?
Do your actual feelings for the person change how you behave afterwards? Like if you do like them but aren't ready yet for whatever reason.
I tend to be friendly but more reserved because I don't want to hurt anyone or lead them on. How about you?
Most Helpful Guy
I give them distance to avoid any mixed messages being perceived. My feelings don't change if I wasn't interested before, and if I was interested then backed off for whatever reason I would simply close the door at that point, to avoid the constant cycle of back and forth.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Rejection is painful and it can also be humiliating for someone. It can lower their self-esteem. A lot of people distance themselves, because they go through a mixture of emotions . They often feel awkward and embarrassed when they are around the person who rejected them
I don't think you can just switch of you feelings for someone , so you either have to suppress them until your feelings for them fade, or have no contact with the person until your feelings fade.
I can suppress my feelings , so if i valued their friendship i would continue that but keep my feelings for them suppressed until my romantic feelings for them changed1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE