Some of you might remember the guy from the bar. Well, things were great. We were going out and having fun and slowly it has started to fade. He is still currently dating the other girl as well. Anyway, I saw him Saturday night. I had given him the cold shoulder prior because he never followed up about plans. He walks up to me and says, "I didn't know you were coming in tonight." and I kind of was just like, "Oh, yeah, celebrating my friend's birthday." The night went as usual. Dancing, making eye contact with him, etc. Before I left, I went to say bye and he said "Bye beautiful, text me!". While I was saying bye to another one of my friends, my friend went up to him and asked him to follow her on IG. I mean, she was asking everyone to do it, but he did. Which kind of bugged me because 1. He doesn't even follow me back on IG and 2. She kind of stepped in and irritated me. Anyway, I texted him when I got home safely because I was driving all these drunk people. He responded.
Two days later I texted him asking when I get to see him again outside of work, that is, if he was still interested. He invited me to his show this weekend. He never said he wasn't interested. I texted him today to ask him the event details and he told me everything that I need to know for this weekend.
I don't know. Don't get me wrong. I'm stoked he invited me to his show and that I get to see him but I just feel like maybe he's not all in it. I know it's also really dumb to be irritated over it, but the fact that he follows my friend on IG and not me really bugs the crap out of me. I don't know how to confront that issue without sounding crazy, hah. It just makes me feel like he's avoiding me in some sense? I'm pretty sure he knows I follow him, too. I don't want to give up but maybe I should at this point. :/
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So you're basically a roadie. You sound like ideal side girl material. The guy clearly has stuff going on along with a good deal of followers. You said he has a girlfriend and he's also got other girls interested in him in some way or another. You seem to have this female mentality of "I texted you, so why aren't you fucking me yet?" This subtlety and implicit statements. "I gave you my number, so why aren't you asking to marry me yet?" That's basically the statement that I get from this. There's no direct statement. No clear, unambiguous "I like you and want to be with you." I read your last question, too, and from all you've said, it's just like you're a friend or a fan.
The inclusion of the cold shoulder adds to the portrayal of a friend or fan. Nothing that you've done, that I see, shouts "I want your dick." or "I'm romantically interested in you." For all he could know, you're just another female fan who likes his work, as he has several/many.
So, my advice is make it unmistakable. Be direct. Women are much too subtle, then get frustrated that the guy can't read their mind. He has a girlfriend. He knows you know he has a girlfriend. So what are you doing that shouts "I want you to pick me instead of the girl you're currently with." ? Nothing that I can see. So say it.
As @joeb73 stated, as well, he's an entertainer, and it's his job to get people to see his shows. In order to bridge that gap of worker and customer, you're going to have to be a lot more obvious, in my opinion. Or just let it go. Either way.
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