If people are looking for a long term relationship, why would they ever date someone they can not see that working in?
Just for the convienience of close, available sex?
I hear people say things like "I could date a person who X, but never marry them."
Why not? Don't you fall in love with the person you are dating? Don't they matter to you, as an individual? What do you do if, after a few years of a good relationship, they want to get married and so you end things because they aren't the type you were looking to marry?
Why would anyone devote time and effort to a relationship that they don't want to last? And if it is just about sex, why not just find a friends with benefits situation, or hook ups, rather than commit to someone that you have no long term plans to actually commit to?
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Thank you! I've been saying this since I was like 13! This is why I refused to date when I was a teen, because I knew it most likely wouldn't go anywhere.
I HATE when people tell me something like "give him a chance! It's not like you're gonna marry him".
And then I say "if won't lead to marriage, or a lifelong commitment, it's a waste of my time and his. No thanks".
Then I'm labeled conceited, bitchy, picky etc.
I date forever or for never. I've always been this way and I can't fathom how people date "just to date".2