So I went out on the third date with this German man (42 year old,) and just like the first two, while we got along great, he made no move whatsoever. Not so much as even hold my hand or even a compliment.
Like our first two dates, this one was rather Long too - 8 hours. We met for dinner, then went to a ballet and then had drinks until 2 am in the morning... Lots to talk about. Deep intellectual and warm, friendly connection. While we spoke about general stuff, we also had a lot of personal insightful talk - you know, the type that kinda allows each other to know, what makes you you...
Towards the end of the date, I steered the conversation towards dating and relationships. And I asked him what kind of connection he thought we had, whether it was platonic or romantic. He replied he didn't know yet. It was too early to tell, since we only met three times... But he had a really nice time this evening. He enjoyed his time with me or something to that effect. He liked that I suggested the ballet (Don Quixote,) since it resonated with his childhood and upbringing...
I told him I enjoy talking to him, that I thought him to be a good person, and that I too didn't know if it was Platonic or romantic. Regardless I liked having him around. And he replied, "Yes, well put. You have a way with words..."
So what's going on? Is this a sign this guy is not interested? Doesn't find me attractive? Is he asexual?
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Guessing this guy's past relationship deteriorated into such dates as these and he feels comfortable in picking up new ones in this vein, at this speed, recalling the comfort of that past love. He's in no hurry to experience the pain of that last one, to risk that in a rush to satisfy his animal passions. He's used to interviewing people and this routine applies to dating/shopping for a mate.
He's finally found peace and attracted to women, not ready for their passions to invade & demand his life to change to please.. yet.
Agreed, he's mentally satisfied but the love & lust pilot lights are not yet lit.
Thus, future dates are certainly warranted but being exclusive to him is OUT until he gives further notice. Besides, I'm not reading any lust for him burning a hole in your panties...