So I like this girl, she likes me. But she's just carrying a bit more weight than im comfortable with as im a fairly lean and sporty guy. Has anyone had this situation before and what did you do? I would feel really bad asking someone to try lose some weight as its their body. Has anyone ever lost weight for their gf/bf?
What would you do if a girl you really liked was kinda chubby?
What Girls Said 14
First off, you can't ask someone to lose weight for you. That's just mean. How would you feel if she said you didn't have enough muscle or you didn't dress the way she liked or your friends sucked?
Women are human beings, even if they are fat, they still deserve respect. It's disrespectful to assume someone should be and will be willing to lose weight just to be more attractive to you.
People also come in all sorts of different shapes and sizes.
in my opinion you could try dating her, but try to have an open mind. I feel a great deal of dating is problematic bc people are too set in their "ideals" that they overlook someone who is perfectly lovely. Maybe you will find her attractive when you start to get to know her more?
However, if you know for a fact you can't possibly find someone like her attractive then maybe you need to find someone else.
Bodies change over time. And she could quite possibly lose weight for you, but what if she doesn't? Or what if she gets pregnant and her body changes? Are you still going to love her and want to be with her?
The physical is only a part of the whole human being. And it's disrespectful for you to ask her to change just so that you can find her attractive. If you want someone who is physically fit and fitness is a huge part of their life, then find someone like that.0
How chubby is this girl? I wouldn't ask them to lose weight, but instead inspire them to have better lifestyle choices like eating healthier and exercising more. Maybe you can plan things together that revolve around physical activity like hiking, swimming etc. If it's really important to you, then I would say it could be a deal breaker because most people just get fatter with time even if you're lean and fit now.
Also I'm curious how chubby this girl is because this makes me a bit insecure. I've struggled with my weight my whole life, and have lost a lot of weight, but in the back of my head I always worry if men think I'm fat. I wonder if a guy thinks I'm pretty, but I'm still chubby... I also have body dysmorphia. I'm 5'5 125 pounds, so not overweight or anything, but I look at a lot of high fashion models, so I feel chubby and stubby by my own standards.1
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If today's society didn't scrutinize body image's y'all wouldn't have a problem with dating or marrying bigger or skinnier or whatever it may be. I've lost weight once to prove a point and then gained it all back to prove that same point... You're dating me not the scale. Hoe don't you know this chick love's herself (body) contrary to belief you have some who do. If your so worried about it just leave the girl be and let her find someone who will appreciate all of her as she is, simple. There are those who have fairly fit bodies and are dating someone who doesn't not. It's not rare nor that common, but some people don't give a shhh. If you really did like her as you say her gut/roll's wouldn't be detrimental to her character.0
Move on and find yourself someone else.
What if she asked you to change your job because of her or stop seeing your friends. This is just plain selfish. If you are not attracted to her and accept her the way she is right now, you don't deserve to be with her... Good luck!0
If you see her weight as a problem, you don't like her all that much. I'm not being snarky, it's true.0
Buy her a fruit basket and scowl at her whenever she eats chocolate.1
Decide whether you can accept her for who she is or not and go from there. If you can, then start something with her. If you can't, move on and let her go. You can't ask someone to lose weight of you, that's not right.0
Then you really don't like her as you said. You been jugmental about her weight. When you like someone you like them the way they are, without conditions. Asking her to loose weight to make you feel better is selfish. If you don't like how she looks then leave her alone and find someone who will fits your standards of the perfect girl, simple.0
lol, why even date her.. just find someone else.0
Since Spring is almost here, ask her to go out for a walk. It is a good initiator.0
I gained 16lb when I was pregnant with my daughter, and after she was born, I just wanted to lose that as fast as I could, Partly because I wanted to feel more like myself and be in shape again, but it was it was also partly because I still wanted the guy I was involved with at the time to be attracted to me ( we weren't together, we were friend with benefits) That was a confidence thing aswell. If you're not so confident in bed with someone, or naked around them, your sex life isn't going to be as good as it can be.
Having said that, this girl you like might be the most confident, comfortable girl in the world, and when you start seeing that more and more, that will be the most attractive thing about her. Give her a chance.0
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What Guys Said 7
Lots of girls will probably attack you here and call you names. BC that's how lots of them are, sensitive lol haven't even looked at the comments yet so maybe not guess we'll see.
But if you aren't very attracted to her, why settle? Why waste time? If she isn't your type and you're an attractive guy move on and find that girl that will be happy with you.1
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If you really like her that shouldn't matter. Maybe if she sees you being active and working out maybe she'll want to join you. But I wouldn't straight up ask someone to lose weight.1
well I really like her so I wouldn't care if she was kinda chubby because I really like her, right?
hypothetically, I wouldn't do shit because I "really like her"
maybe my expression of "really like her" is different to yours.0
I go with is she in good enough shape to go outdoors with me, I enjoy hiking backpacking and camping so as long as you can keep up its okay. I know some bigger girls that will go way way longer then the skinny girl.0
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