First of all, I'm in my mid 20ies and never had a girlfriend before.
I noticed that there's a girl at my university who seems interested in me. I always wanted a girlfriend to love and get loved, but never had enought luck. She's the first girl where I noticed interest. She is a really nice person and I like hanging out with her, but there's only one problem (pls. don't judge me), optically she isn't really my type. I don't find her ugly, but she's not the kind of girl I look after.
I really don't know what to do. On the one hand I like her, and would love to have a girlfriend. On the other hand I really don't wanna hurt her because I don't know if her attractiveness would be a problem for me.
Most Helpful Girl
Start Off as her Friend right now, no one says you Two Need to be dancing down the aisle tomorrow. Hang out, keep it light and semi sweet and who Knows... Perhaps with getting to know her, Nursing and Nurturing a Nice Friendship, She may grow on you.
Unconditional love and Accepting someone with any Flaw is Not a Law but it makes a Healthier relationship, and with or without Looks... It actually Cooks.
Give her a Chance for a possible Romance and if you find You can't, then leave her Alone and Stay Home.
Good luck and Go slow, Joe. xx1
Most Helpful Guy
Here is some advice you can use for life: Look for the kind of girl who likes the kind of guy that you are.
Go out with her, get to know her.
Many, many years ago, I was snail mailing a girl (before email was common). Her letters were nice, but I couldn't get over that she was not attractive in the face from her photo. I stopped writing. A while later, I received a letter from someone else who said she was the first girl's cousin. She was reasonably pretty, so I went to meet her. She lied, they were sisters. So I met them both and the first girl was driving the conversation, trying to get me and the sister together. At dinner, the three of us, plus one little sister went to dinner. At the end, I told the little one and the #2 to go outside. I was going to talk with #1. I confronted her on what she was doing. She was trying to help her sister, but she also knew that her sister wasn't interested, but she and I had a real connection. I called the other two girls in and we explained what had transpired (the little girl was totally confused). I felt really bad about dropping her over her looks, because we really did get along well, and soon found out we could have a good time in bed.
Attractiveness is not limited to looks. Personality and how the girl responds to you are more important.1