Well im 18 and i usually date guys around my age but for a while i've been single because the way most guys my age act is just completely unattractive to me. i've never considered dating someone older until about 4 months ago, i decided to see what instagram is all about (im not into social media, and i didn't like it) but i followed a few rappers that were popular in the 90s (all i listen to is 90s music) on there and some followed back and i started talking to one of them (yes its really him, we talked through video many times) we were texting after i deleted my instagram and he was respectful and said i made him feel young (he is 43) and we got along well and we eventually became flirty and just started having a thing. we wanted to meet up but we live too far and he has a girlfriend (i normally wouldn't talk to guys with girlfriends, but its not everyday you get to talk to someone who's music your in love with) we talked about sex a lot but also about serious things, he told me a lot about himself and about how he's been depressed lately and about his problems and we had a lot of deep conversations but eventually, after about 3-4 months, he basically said he can't be talking to me anymore because he needs to focus on some things (the things depressing him) and his girlfriend is becoming too suspicious. i knew this wasn't going anywhere and the only reason i was so interested is because i love him as an artist, but now i want to be with someone older. maybe not 40, more like 30. but what i want to know is do older men really take women that are at least 10 years younger seriously? like would i really be able to have a relationship with someone older?
Most Helpful Guy
I have dated a woman much younger then me. I was mid 30's and she was 19, and it was great and fun, but there was conflict. The main one was the issue of children, she wanted one, and I had a teenage daughter, and didn't want to go through that again. She's with a guy now, and we're still friends, and she had her baby, who's now a nice young gentleman. In fact we just had lunch the other day me, her, and her son. now I'm in my 40's and she's in her early 30's and had we stuck together I think that we could have made it work, but I am happy for her, and glad she found what she wanted.1
Most Helpful Girl
What I've heard is that older men are way more stable than guys in their 20's.
They surely want sex, most men want that, but I think the chances of getting something serious with someone 10 years older than you are higher than if you would date a guy your age.2