I like this super smart and talented guy at my uni. (he makes it into dean's list every semester) and I was wondering if guys like him will be even remotely attracted to such an average girl like me.
Obviously if I got into the uni. (it's pretty competitve) I'm not exactly too "dumb"... but I do struggle academically... lol
I'm someone who has a strong sense of direction of what I want in life (carrer goals and passions), it's just that I am a lot slower than most people. I'd say I have a pretty structured life style and also have a good/warm personality.
What concerns me is that will someone with a 3.6+ GPA be attracted [seriously] to someone with a... well let's just say someone with a significantly lower GPA? They're the type who will probably have their life figured out after college (he's mostly likely going to law or med school right after graduation), while I will most likely be doing this and that before I can actually get into medical school (what I am aiming for...).
I just wonder if people like him will look down on me.
Most Helpful Guy
It will depend entirely on the person. Personally I don't care if someone has an IQ of 180 or 80. It all depends on whether I like them or not. Having moderate intelligence is probably a plus for me, but it's far from being necessary.
I'd guess that most guys won't care too much as long as you are capable of carrying on a decent conversation. That's the key. You have to be able to relate to the other person. That doesn't mean talking about quantum physics all the time. It means normal conversations.
I'm guessing that you are putting too much importance on intelligence. You almost seem to put intelligent people on a pedestal. At the same time you are judging yourself as somehow lesser than them. They are no better than you, and you are no less than them. Have some more confidence in yourself. You said you have a strong sense of direction and a passion. A lot of people with 4.0 averages don't have that. If I were to pick more important traits, I'd pick the strong direction and passion over raw intelligence.
If you are interested in the guy, go for it and do so with confidence, and as an equal.0
Most Helpful Girl
While it's true that people are often drawn to others who they consider to be "like them", you don't need be similar to him in every way. Find out about his interests/hobbies. What's important to him? If you find that you have things in common, talk about those things with him. Show off your skills in those areas. Personally, I think that a lower GPA would be a silly reason to deny someone a chance. I doubt that he would care one bit. You may not have a high GPA, but I can tell from what you've written that you are intelligent. Don't be too hard on yourself.0