This guy and I no longer talk to eachother. We both hurt eachother said goodbye. We met online. We talked for a month. A lot of texting and facetimed twice. I drove out to his state. He paid for all my food and cooked for me. He told me he liked me and wanted to get to know me better but then stated he was busy and disappeared for 3-4 days. I confronted him and we got into an argument. He ignored me for 2 weeks and then text me again. I apologized and he told me I need to work on myself. I asked him what he wanted. A friend? To get to know me genuinely? I was getting mixed signals. Told him I liked him and found him attractive. I waited all day for a reply, I told him its okay he doesn't have to answer. I dont need to know because I know the answer. Told him to please just delete my number. He attacked me again. We got into an argument. Told him instead of texting lets talk on the phone. The next day he texted weirdly. Stating he's sick in bed and we could talk in a couple of days. I got very angry and we argued. He attacked me, I said some rude things out of anger. Told him he hurt my feelings and I aplogized for the mean things I said. He never apologized for hurting my feelings at all. This is both of our fault. I have to work on my talking problems out skills, but I told him he kept stringing me along and he hurt my feelings. He just kept saying I was unhealthy. I held my ground because he made me think I was going crazy. We haven't talked in a week or so and probably never will. I visited his online profile and he updated new pictures with his family. He never showed me his family pictures when talking to me. I broke down crying. I miss him. How can I move on? I dont even know him that well but he was my dream guy. I want to apologize but I feel like I should not apologize because he hurt me really bad. I'm sure I hurt him too. However, he emotionally abused me. I just want to apologize so bad but in the back of my head I feel like I shouldn't.
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... probably because you feel rejected. Rejection can lower your self-esteem. It can make you feel unlovable , unwanted and worthless. So regardless of who rejects you , or how long you've know the person... you still feel the pain of rejection.
If your conscience is telling you that you should apologise then say sorry to him, because that may be preventing you from moving on from him. Saying sorry may bring you the closure that you need.
You both hurt each other. So you can only apologise for your behaviour. Whether you were justified in what you said or did... you did still hurt him too. So if you still care about him, and feel guilty , then just be bold and apologise. 😊0
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