I've been after this girl for the majority of my college career, and basically every body in my year group, including her, knows it. She has had a boyfriend who lives on the other side of the country for about a year and a half, and she sees him 3 times a year for a week or two. When she isn't with her boyfriend and is alone with me she holds my hand, flirts and gives the occasional kiss. When any of our school friends are about, she ignores me. She keeps hinting that she wants me to take things further, but I feel too guilty to go that far when she has a boyfriend, all I can think of is the other guy who is being cheated on. I told her this about 8 months ago, but she hasn't made any real try to either break it off with either me or him. She just got back from her trip up to see her boyfriend and told me she thought she was pregnant. It turns out she wasn't, but clearly she isn't trying that hard to choose if she decided to have sex with him. Everything points me to being better off ending it with her, but I'm her only close friend. She used to self harm and nearly overdosed a few times before all this started, and I don't want it to happen again. It probably doesn't help that I'm completely smitten with her.
What do I do? This boyfriend on the side business is killing me, but I don't see how I can break it off, either?
Most Helpful Girl
Stop being fucking weak bro. This sounds like the story of a guy who will get shit on and later complain he's too nice. Yeah. Stop being such a pushover. It's not only women who are pushovers. She's taking advantage of you. It's not your fault she has no friends. Uh hello maybe there's a reason for that as she sounds like a huge attention whore bitch. When a girl has no friends it's a red flag. Grow a pair, put yourself first and get the fuck away from her.1
Most Helpful Guy
Take her somewhere nice... Have a good time.. Clear the air... calm ur hearts and just say it clearly... I know its not as easy as it sounds but u need to ask her to choose between u and him.. that she is important to u... U want her to be ur girl alone. Ok0