Similar to the way some fat people blame their bodies on genetics. Yes, anxiety makes doing some things more difficult than it does for the majority of people, but that doesn't mean it can't be done with maximum effort.
Observe that a lot of people with anxiety don't actually take medication for it. (That would erase their excuse)
They constantly try to improve everything EXCEPT their anxiety. (they try to excel in other areas which doesn't fix the problem.)
Whether they say it or not, they use it to justify problematic behavior. (I don't like people because they make me anxious therefore i will hide away in my room forever even though it leaves me unfulfilled ultimately.)
They constantly ask why they can't do or have or be what they want until you tell them YOUR FEAR and then they get all quiet and have nothing to say.
Not trying to be harsh just honestly asking if you think anxiety can be overcome and if you think people use it too often as a crutch not to change?
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Most Helpful Girl
I would say more that they haven't figured out how to deal with it yet. I, for one, was a pretty tough cookie despite having some manageable mental issues that do seem to run in my family for most of my life. I got straight A's, lettered, had lots of friends and did ok dating, worked my tail off, etc. On the outside, a totally "together" chick.
Then anxiety started to spiral into panic disorder during a rough patch. That shit is bananas. It's like no routine fear I've ever felt, but closer to absolute hell. Your brain actually is wigging out and pushing too much adrenaline and cortisol into your body, which creates negative side effects including extreme heart rate, nausea, vomiting and diarrhea, breathing difficulty, etc. So while anxiety disorders aren't life threatening like it feels, it's also not ONLY mental.
For a while, I had no idea what was even going on and it got worse and worse. It's like stumbling in the dark trying to find the right path. I had to try dozens of things to get back to "my" normal and what does help is a combination of different things from medication to diet/exercise/vitamin plan, to meditation and mindfulness to cognitive behavioral therapy.
Some people definitely need to push themselves harder, but on the flipside, it's much more intense and complicated than routine fear and nerves at the same time - so minimizing the effort and flat out trial and error it takes isn't helpful either.3
Most Helpful Guy
They don't take medication because they don't want to spend on something fake, they want to grow and learn how to get out of it.
Improving other things or learning new things can enhance a person's confidence, give them something to talk about if they ever get the chance to meet someone or talk to someone. Nothing wrong there. Once they improve something that isn't directly related to their anxiety, then they get closer to working on the anxiety.
Staying in their room isn't problematic behaviour. It's what they need right then. Socializing has become almost a competition, where people get spoken badly about if they aren't what, or if they haven't done what the majority of society would believe is normal, well fuck normal... it's boring. Maybe they will be unfulfilled, but that is exactly what is needed for them right now, not to be forced put and shoved into situations that social people believe will get them out of their comfort zone. I fucking hate those types of people that believe you can force change on people by putting them in a situation to 'help them out'.
They may say they can't do, have or be, but that's because they have either been told, 'No' in some way or form by somebody who has been a naysayer in their life, or hey feel embarrassed to go and do it, maybe they do t have the connections of people to go out and try whatever with, and maybe hey don't know how to let go for a second and be jovial.
I am very anxious around people, I have never dated or had many good friends. I have started to acquire friends but it's a very slow process and most people I keep at arms length or more and just touch on surface topics that don't include me.
I grew up getting made fun of for the way my voice sounded, when puberty hit my voice got really deep, and muffled due to allergies and stuff. But I wasade fun of a lot for it. When I was a kid getting made fun of, I kind of brushed it off saying shut up and all that. I was a pretty quiet person and a pushover, but I never knew anything else. But I never learned how to speak to my peers, I am sill very quiet.
I grew up with friends that seemed fine, then they all started smoking pot all the time, fucking hated it. I loved going skateboarding and, getting drunk at bars, but I never really had that except with one of them. But later on I realized they didn't like me anymore, or they became to weird fo me to be around, or they didn't call me anymore.1