It boggles my mind why someone would be willing to subjective themselves to bad relationships when they can easily find something better. I'm a guy with very little options, yet I am always careful with who I choose to take a chance on.
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Nobody goes into a relationship thinking "hell yeah I want to be abused and feel like shit". Abuse is something that happens gradually, and almost painlessly, until you're suddenly standing there with no self-esteem left wondering wtf happened. Abuse can be so subtle and lots of people keep justifying it and downplaying it because they have already fallen for the abusive person. It's not about being extra careful. It's about an extremely manipulative person who knows exactly what to do and say, in order to abuse someone yet make them stay. Your view of abuse is very simple-minded and black and white. It doesn't really work like that. Usually it's not just waking up one day and having your partner beat the shit out of you. The abusive person carefully calculates their every move, slowly stretching your boundaries, carefully crossing all the lines, while at the same time making you look like YOU'RE the one at fault. That YOU'RE overreacting and that the abuse is completely normal.
So don't judge those in abusive relationships. They've been stripped of their self-esteem and essentially brainwashed by the fucked up person who's abusing them.4