So I want to get to know this girl, but I don't know if I can like her in that way yet. Is it smart to just become friends and hang out with her in the summer and see where I stand? Or is that an issue?
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Yep, that's an issue. But whatever you do, always be honest with her upfront. Tell her you are not sure and that you would like to hang out some more and get to know her a bit more before jumping into anything. And then let her decide what she wants. Honestly this happened to me recently, but the guy wasn't really honest with me, he could've explained it better. He just said he is a mess right now and that he would like to keep hanging out. All I took from that was "I'm not into you but I want us to be just friends" so I bailed out. I said no thanks and walked away. I'm sure he didn't see that coming, but I did what I felt was right. If he maybe explained it better and said that he needs some time, I'd definitely give him time and accept to slow down and just hang out for now. But for the love of God, if you're not into me and you know you never will be, don't string me along.0