I am at a age everything is confusing to me, i am 23 and untill now i let religion dictate my mind and decision. I let things slip away and didn't take control of my life they way i should have. I am now 23 and dont have much life experience,, for example never fell in love, dated a cute guy, never had a boyfriend, never really worked a lot (i have no degree yet) am i doing the right things focusing on school instead of boys? right now my days consist on school and nothing else... i just dont want to miss out on anything important if you know what i mean? i missed out on so much in my life and its a shame because not to be conceited... i am a beautiful girl and could use my looks to get what i want (achieve pro goals). I just feel like i am missing out on life and sometimes i feel like... its not worth to go on... i even feel like does God exist? i mean does He?
Most Helpful Guy
Sounds like you're struggling to figure out what role your religion plays in your life, which is tricky because it's so personal and so different for everybody.
I'll offer my opinion on the subject and you can take it however you like.
I'm not a particularly religious person, though I do believe in a higher power (God). However, I think that God most importantly has a sense of humor and is forgiving. I think we're all in this experience we call 'life' to learn and grow, to screw up, to improve, to experience good and bad, and maybe most importantly to have fun and help improve the experience of the people around us.
Taking this outlook into account, if I were in your shoes, I would be a little more rebellious. Don't be afraid of breaking the rules that your parents and your church may have. Listen to the inner voice within your mind, go with what YOU feel is right, even if it contradicts what you grew up with.
In a sense, follow your own religion, make your own edits and modifications to the framework that you were taught.
Now this doesn't mean you should say "Well, I'm going to say it's OK to kill people or it's fine to lie, cheat, and steal, and I'm going to whore myself out to as many guys as possible and do drugs in excess, and it's all OK because I say it is", but I kind of doubt that's where you would take it anyway.
What I mean is, maybe you were taught to save physical intimacy and sex for marriage, but you feel like it's OK to get physically close with and have sex with a boyfriend who you're in a loving, caring relationship with, before getting married.
Maybe you were taught that dressing modestly is the only way to dress, that showing any leg or shape is a one way ticket to the firey pits of hell... but you think it's OK to dress a little more "wild" and show off some cleavage when you're going out dancing with your girl friends.
And maybe instead of viewing alcohol and drugs as the devil's poison, you think that it's OK to have a drink or two from time to time and let loose on a Friday night.
Those are just examples of course, you'll have your own specifics that apply to you and your beliefs and desires, but hopefully you get the point.
We're only in this experience for a short time, why not enjoy it and have fun? And when you make mistakes, learn from them and move on!
I personally wouldn't want to be associated with a God who's strict, demanding, unforgiving, and angry at me for having a good time and not hurting anyone. Ya know?0
Most Helpful Girl
The god you are taught to believe are created by the controllers of humanity hiding behind religions and other diff type of cultural groups, making humans feeling less than adequate. So that is not the true concept of god. The god you believe is physical which is a human god that demands obedience and use fear to make you feel small, desperate and lacking 24/7.
You feel lack in your life and why don't you start reading, doing research on your own and dig out what you can find where it will eventually lead you to see the bigger picture than the one presented to you?0