One of my closest friend's best friend has asked me out :/ I don't see him in that way but I do really like him as a friend. How do I let him down as gently as possible? :( I really don't want to upset him because he's pretty much opened his heart out to me :(
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How did he ask you out? What did you say in the heat of the moment?
Let him know what you appreciate about him ( a personality trait or something, that he is funny, that he is caring, that is always there for all his friends) and that you admire he had the power to ask you out. Explain that you are currently not seeing yourself in a relationship.
I tend to fall for girls that really are special and I love them either way, as a friend or lover. so getting rejected would be "ok, I see, well... not what I expected but hey... life!" *give her a kiss* *laugh*
Honestly for a while I'd be like "yes, I am in love with you and I said it, deal with it!" and I don't feel insulted at all for getting rejected.
But for some it feels like the end of the world. in that case, there is nothing that you can say to avoid him from getting hurt at all or from having a small grudge on you... it happens. but you can minimize those.
"I don't want you to take this to hard on yourself or to feel awkward about it, so I will stay here and be awkward with you for a while. *smile at him*."
if you feel like it, you can give him a hug and a kiss on the cheek. that would somehow show him you also care about him to some extent,... in a friendly way. But only if you feel like it...
he might stop interacting with you that much for a while or try to avoid the group, he will be down and miserable.
i think it would be ok to compensate and don't leave him alone in his puddle. if you don't say anything and accept his.. separation from the group, he might take it as you being annoyed by his presence.
So ask if he is ok, if he does not go out as much, try to man him up a bit, give him a message "hey X, we are waiting for you and not going without you" or something like that. You get the point.1