I'm 26 and recently have gotten into my very first actual relationship. The girl I'm with right now is my first girlfriend. I've never dated or had any sort of relationship with anyone before her. The same does not apply to her. She has had multiple partners in the past. Now I'm not feeling upset because I'm afraid my dick is too small or something stupid like that. It's because it pisses me off that all the other guys she's been with got easily what I had to work my entire life to earn. Let me explain. I was not athletic or the most charming in High School. Girls thought I was weird because my personality wasn't naturally conformist like everyone else. I was acutely aware that I would lose out to guys who were better looking or more charming then me. But I worked hard. I worked incredible hard in all corners of my life from High School to college and beyond. Today I have a great career that compensates me well, I'm in terrific shape, and I've managed to cultivate enough charm to match the extroverts who have it naturally. My girlfriend approached me first, which I think was very progressive of her, but now that we've delved a little into each others histories. I've learned about her exes as well as her one-night stands and I know for a fact that none of those proles worked nearly as hard at self-development as I did and it pisses me off that they got what I wanted without putting nearly as much work as I did in.
I don't how to deal with this anger and jealousy I'm feeling.
I'm pretending for the time being that knowing her history doesn't bother me at least until I come to terms with it on my own.
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I'm the same man. That's why... I don't settle. You work your arse off to be some woman's consolation prize? Fuck that, I came late to the party (same story as you) but I sure as shit an going to party like a demon. Just play the field. It's that or you settle for this one. And let me tell you a harrowing secret, the more you bottle this inside, the worse it is going to be for her. You either let go and submit to the fact she has had a much better sex life than you. Or you start creating your own sex life. or you ask for an open relationship😊1
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